God Does Not Respond to Addictive Demands

“Participant: I’m starting to realise that if we have a really strong desire for God it could be an addiction expecting Him to love us.

Jesus: We have a lot of addictions with God. And in fact God doesn’t respond to addictive demands. That’s one thing we need to remember about God.

So this is one way that we can tell whether we have addictions with God. We pray, we pray, we pray, we pray… nothing happens. We pray, we pray… nothing happens. We pray, we pray… nothing happens. We pray… now, ” F you, God, I’m not praying no more”. That tells me that all the previous prayers were all addictions. They were all demands because remember the anger-based response is when the addiction or expectation or demand is not being met.

The truth is you will never get angry when you’re out of your addictions. You’ll never get angry again. I’m not talking about the childhood anger, where you’re processing an emotion and you’re laying on the ground just having a good scream, I’m talking about the adult anger where you’re just in a rage because something that you wanted did not happen. And because something we wanted didn’t happen we turned to anger, and the anger is telling us that actually none of what we just did was motivated by a pure motive; it was all motivated by an unloving motive, a motive to avoid a fear, or avoid some grief, or to control.

You see the anger is a very good guide. Remember three years ago now I gave a talk about, “The Human Soul – Anger is your guide”. Many of you are yet to learn this actually; anger is your guide, telling you that, “Oh! I have an addiction, and it’s unloving. That’s what my anger is telling me.” And if I look at my expectations and demands, in that addiction, I will find and discover the fear that those demands and expectations cover. And if I let myself feel those fears, as an emotion, I will actually get to the underlying reason why I did all that in the first place, and while I’m there, now God can connect to me. And God can connect to me because I’m now in my true self, I’ve now had an awakening to what’s going on inside of my own soul because I wanted to, I made that choice to.

So when we’re in these addictions, we are so far removed from God that we have no chance of connecting. We need to go in and down to get to the connection point.

So we need to go into the anger, we go, “Okay I’m angry, I’m angry. I admit that I’m angry. Okay there’s an addiction in play. I’m angry so there’s got to be an addiction.” And even at that point most of us go, “No it’s your fault I’m angry.” For example, “It was my husband’s fault; he didn’t do the right thing by me.” Or, “It was my wife’s fault or my children’s fault.” It’s always somebody else’s fault, right? No, it’s because you have expectations and demands that you’re angry, that’s the only reason why you’re angry. So it’s within me – my expectations, my demands – that create this rage within me. So I go, “Okay, there’s an addiction inside of me that I desperately do not want to release. What is it?”

This is where prayer now comes into effect – where we can start praying for God to help us with finding what it is. Talk to our spirit guides who can lead us to show us what it is.”

Original Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rPbW3jUH0V8


The Simplicity of Prayer and Trusting our own feelings

“Now many spirits in the spirit world can actually see the connection, there is a physical connection that occurs between God and them. There’s actually an energy stream that gets set up. The Holy Spirit is an actual energy stream. You could think of it like, if you want to make some kind of concept, this is not true, but if you can think of it like some sort of concept like a little wormhole coming from somewhere to a person, this little cord coming. And in the spirit world you can actually see it coming when the person has an actual desire or a longing, a pure longing for God’s Love.
Now the problem we have here on Earth is you can’t see that. All you can do is feel it. Now when I say it’s a problem, I don’t really believe it’s a very big problem, because at some point you’ve got to start trusting your own feelings. At some point, when are you going to do that? You might as well start with this one, start trusting the feeling of love entering you from God. So, what I’m saying is, see God as the most ideal being you could ever perceive, with regard to love. And then start projecting at that being, the feelings that you want to have a relationship with them. (00:56.08)

That’s what prayer is. And that’s what I was talking about with this group of people in the first century and that’s what I’ve been talking about ever since. The reason why it’s such a simple concept, it’s such a simple concept a child can understand it, and yet the majority of people think it’s far too simple, so, “I’m not going to do that. I would rather go along to a mediumship class for three months, talking about how to talk to a spirit and I’d rather do this and I’d rather do that, and I’d rather do this other work and be involved in all these metaphysical things than actually develop myself with love.” (00:56.43)

What I’m suggesting is do the opposite to that. Focus on your love development first and let everything else slide. Because as you develop your love, your joy will increase, your wonder will increase, everything will increase if you focus on the love first. (00:56.59)”

(Relationship with God: Praying for Divine Love)

Asking Questions of God

“The more we study prayer, the more we see that it has to have a lot of sincerity in it. When you come up and ask me a question there is not a single question that you cannot ask me that you couldn’t ask God first. Is that not true and in my opinion, God’s a much better person to ask because she actually knows the answers better than I do. It would make sense to me, that the person to ask would be the person who knows the answers. And the other beauty of asking God, is God’s on your shoulder every single moment of your life. God can give you instant answers, God is able to give attention equally to all of her children including you. If you develop your relationship with God through prayer, all the answers will come to you, just like everything I ask for comes to me in exactly the same manner in fact. And God doesn’t think I’m special and you’re not. God doesn’t feel that way. God is not like a parent on earth that is “Yes I’ve got my special son but all the others – ew! God’s not like that. No God’s going “All my sons and daughters are special to me. I want to engage with them individually, equally.” Every time you place me in the position of answering your questions, you are forgetting how important your relationship with God is and how unimportant your relationship with me is. Your relationship with God is going to change your life, it’s going to change your soul. Your relationship with me can’t do any of those things. I can’t change your life, I can’t give you God’s love and I can’t change your soul. I can make some suggestions. that’s all I can do. I can’t do anything else for you. God can do all these other things that I can’t do and I’ll never be able to do them….You seem to have concepts that God is limited because you can’t see her and you can’t feel her and none of that is true.God is immensely infinite in power and in understanding and in love. God can share with billions  and billions and billions  of people at the same time, the truth and give each single one of these people just perfect responses every  single time. God can give you every single thing you need, every single thing…….So I say to you question your attitude if you are not getting an answer. God is really interested in you becoming the best you can be. That’s God’s primary objective – helping you become what she designed you to become, if you choose it.”

Prayer and Answers

“Let’s be more definitive about what it means to ask God?

(To earnestly feel)

(To have huge desire and openness to ask God to show us the truth.)

Desire and openness is very good. Desire often creates openness and we want to know the truth of the issue and not what we want to believe the truth to be and be willing to hear that…or feel that. Yes a desire will create a willingness to listen. How does God tell us things? If I’m not open to God and I’m not feeling God’s emotions how does God tell me things? This amazing Law of Attraction. So there would also need to be a desire and openness to feel what is happening in my attractions, that my soul is currently attracting. Many people come up to me and ask us questions, I say what have you attracted on this matter over the last week or month or whatever it is? Good now we are starting to get the feeling  of prayer. Have you taken responsibility for this yourself? So there needs to be a feeling that I want to take responsibility for this thing occurring that I am attracting in my life. I want to know not only what it is but not hope that it is  not some other person’s problem.”

Receiving God’s Love – Resistance to Prayer and Faith

Extracted from 20131019 – General Discussion from People in Philadelphia S1:

The discussion had looked at  5 important qualities to develop:


Participant: For me, prayer is where I am gaining all this new knowledge and all of this new understanding and all of the courage to feel what I am afraid to feel and all of that so “Where does prayer fit in?” is my question.

AJ: Well prayer fits in on all of them obviously. All of these aspects of ourselves that we need to develop, can only really be developed by receiving love from God in the end and the only way in which to receive love from God is to pray as long as we know what prayer is, which in the end is having a heartfelt passionate desire to receive love from God. So yes, that is a very powerful transformative process. However it’s very simple to answer “prayer”, whereas the answer to all these things is far more complex.

So the way I feel about prayer is, that it fits into every one of these things (Faith, Will, Humility, Truth and Love). It’s a bit like most other things we can choose to do, they fit into one of these 5 things somewhere so while I agree with you that prayer – the two most important things in the universe are prayer and faith. Prayer in other words, the desire to receive love from God, as a passionate feeling and Faith that we are going to receive it, faith that it is possible, those two things are very, very essential and are the most important things. They are not necessarily the things that we will ask lots of our questions about, because usually it is other areas of our life that are causing us to not pray and it is other areas of our life that are causing us to not have faith, and it is other areas of our life that cause us to not ask God for love and it is other feelings and emotions that we are trying to shut down that cause us not to allow ourselves to go through those two basic things. So this is why these questions involving these things are quite important because it breaks down our resistance to prayer.

 If you have no faith, you will not pray.

 If you do not use your will to pray, you will not pray.

 If you do not have a humble heart, you will not receive love, you will not even desire it in many cases.

 If you do not have an openness to feeling an emotion of love, you will not pray.

So while prayer affects every one of these things, it’s knowing more about any of these things that helps break down your resistance to prayer and the main problem that we have is that we have resistance to prayer, resistance to faith – they are our primary problems. If we had no resistance and no resistance to faith, we would all already be at one with God as soon as we had a desire to have a relationship with God. It is only our resistance to prayer and our resistance to faith that causes us to not be right at this moment at one with God. So if we are going to ask questions, we are best focusing on where our resistances are – what is going to help us open up to prayer, what is going to help us open up to faith and these are the things that we will need to develop in order for those things to occur.

Without faith you will not pray.

Without using your will or understanding how your will works, you will not pray. This one here (using your will) is very much about your soul – what is your soul?- how do you pray? Do you pray from your mind or how do you pray? That is all about understanding the soul-the will of the soul. So i still feel that these are the questions that we will focus on, because they will break down your resistance to your relationship with God. If none of us had resistance to our relationship with god, then we would have one to the point of at-one-ment with god. So it’s only our resistance that causes that process to occur.