God Does Not Respond to Addictive Demands

“Participant: I’m starting to realise that if we have a really strong desire for God it could be an addiction expecting Him to love us.

Jesus: We have a lot of addictions with God. And in fact God doesn’t respond to addictive demands. That’s one thing we need to remember about God.

So this is one way that we can tell whether we have addictions with God. We pray, we pray, we pray, we pray… nothing happens. We pray, we pray… nothing happens. We pray, we pray… nothing happens. We pray… now, ” F you, God, I’m not praying no more”. That tells me that all the previous prayers were all addictions. They were all demands because remember the anger-based response is when the addiction or expectation or demand is not being met.

The truth is you will never get angry when you’re out of your addictions. You’ll never get angry again. I’m not talking about the childhood anger, where you’re processing an emotion and you’re laying on the ground just having a good scream, I’m talking about the adult anger where you’re just in a rage because something that you wanted did not happen. And because something we wanted didn’t happen we turned to anger, and the anger is telling us that actually none of what we just did was motivated by a pure motive; it was all motivated by an unloving motive, a motive to avoid a fear, or avoid some grief, or to control.

You see the anger is a very good guide. Remember three years ago now I gave a talk about, “The Human Soul – Anger is your guide”. Many of you are yet to learn this actually; anger is your guide, telling you that, “Oh! I have an addiction, and it’s unloving. That’s what my anger is telling me.” And if I look at my expectations and demands, in that addiction, I will find and discover the fear that those demands and expectations cover. And if I let myself feel those fears, as an emotion, I will actually get to the underlying reason why I did all that in the first place, and while I’m there, now God can connect to me. And God can connect to me because I’m now in my true self, I’ve now had an awakening to what’s going on inside of my own soul because I wanted to, I made that choice to.

So when we’re in these addictions, we are so far removed from God that we have no chance of connecting. We need to go in and down to get to the connection point.

So we need to go into the anger, we go, “Okay I’m angry, I’m angry. I admit that I’m angry. Okay there’s an addiction in play. I’m angry so there’s got to be an addiction.” And even at that point most of us go, “No it’s your fault I’m angry.” For example, “It was my husband’s fault; he didn’t do the right thing by me.” Or, “It was my wife’s fault or my children’s fault.” It’s always somebody else’s fault, right? No, it’s because you have expectations and demands that you’re angry, that’s the only reason why you’re angry. So it’s within me – my expectations, my demands – that create this rage within me. So I go, “Okay, there’s an addiction inside of me that I desperately do not want to release. What is it?”

This is where prayer now comes into effect – where we can start praying for God to help us with finding what it is. Talk to our spirit guides who can lead us to show us what it is.”

Original Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rPbW3jUH0V8


Addictions are an active blockage to our causal emotions

“Participant: So could there still be some childhood anger present though?

Oh certainly there can be. That’s why I said rare rather than non-existent. But in your processing work you need to get to a point where your anger is not even there in a real way, not that you’re intellectually getting out of your anger all the time, but in a real way the anger isn’t even present with you anymore. If your anger is present, you know that you’re in an addiction still; you’re in an addiction still when that anger is there. Remember I gave a talk “The Human Soul – Anger is your guide”, and your anger is a beautiful guide into what your demands and expectations that are unloving are all about. Your anger is all about that. So if you can allow yourself to feel your anger and be truthful about your anger and be truthful about what’s going on inside of you about it, and be truthful about hurt, because all hurt based emotions are angry in nature and they’re all projections on others, you’ll very rapidly see your own addictions. And when you see your own addictions, then you have a chance of releasing them emotionally.

When you release them emotionally the underlying causal emotion, which is just sitting there underneath this addiction, can now just naturally percolate up into your awareness. You’ll feel it and it will just naturally come up because there is no longer any blockage, there is no longer any passive blockage or active blockage that you have preventing it from coming to the surface. Addictions are an active blockage to your causal emotion. They are a blockage that we created because we badly want to not feel the causal emotion, so we are totally in activity with our addictions. We want these addictions to be met so that we can avoid the causal emotion. Now when you get rid of the addiction there’s now no longer the desire to avoid your causal emotion either. In that moment, whatever gets triggered just comes up, something gets triggered, comes up again and it gets triggered and comes up again until it’s no longer there and there’s nothing to prevent it from coming up anymore. It’s the addiction that suppresses it, keeps it down andunder control. [01:09:43]”

(The Human Soul: Processing Addictions)

When we release the addictions the associated anger dissipates

“Mary: Can I say though that I don’t think I’m through that causal emotion about our safety, but I feel I have given up that addiction?

Yes. That’s one thing to bear in mind too, is that every addiction you give up, you’ll find the anger that goes along with it dissipates. That’s the beauty; you may not get to the causal emotion sometimes with these addictions, but from that point on, you will no longer have anger when your addiction isn’t met. Many of us have instant anger when our addiction doesn’t get met, instant hurt, instant resentment; all of those instant feelings that come up where we fire up,and those feelings are all about our addictions getting met. When you deal with the addiction and feel through it emotionally, you’ll get to the point where you still may have an underlying causal emotion you need to release, but the actual addiction itself won’t drive the anger. There’s no addiction anymore so therefore no angry response. Remember the addiction is there to mask the causal emotion, that’s the purpose of it, so when I’m prepared to acknowledge the addiction and feel it, now it’s not masking the causal emotion so now the causal emotion has a chance to actually come up and be felt. [01:05:11]

Mary: And now that safety emotion is far more present for me all of the time.

So now what happens is if I talk to a group of people who are angry, instead of Mary being angry with me, she is actually crying because these people are angry and she feels terrible about it. She’s now in the causal emotion because the actual addictive behaviour to get out of the causal emotion is no longer present.

Participant: So the anger can subside as soon as you identify the addiction?

No, you have to feel your way through the addiction and the anger will subside. It’s very rare for you to notice it intellectually and the anger subsides. You’ll find that the anger will keep coming up, keep coming up, and keep coming up until you feel the reason why the addiction was created. “I’m not getting what I want here.” When you feel your way through that and release that and cry about that, then the addiction is gone. It’s like the addiction disappears. It’s like it just goes into nothing and from that moment on, now the causal emotion is there, ready to be felt at any time, any time it’s triggered and you won’t have an addictive response to it. [01:06:23]

And that’s the beauty of doing it too; you actually get out of anger, you have very little anger. After you deal with these addictions, you’ll find you’ll have very little anger in any of your processing. So if there’s still anger in your processing, you know there’s a lot of addictions in place still. When you get to a place where you’ve dealt with a lot of the addictions, the anger itself often is completely gone out of all of your processing. So now, even though Mary still has the emotion where she’s afraid for our lives at times with different interactions that are happening with us and the different feelings that people project at us and she’s still afraid of that, she’s now not angry with me or with the people doing it anymore.”

(The Human Soul: Processing Addictions)