“Mary: Can I say though that I don’t think I’m through that causal emotion about our safety, but I feel I have given up that addiction?
Yes. That’s one thing to bear in mind too, is that every addiction you give up, you’ll find the anger that goes along with it dissipates. That’s the beauty; you may not get to the causal emotion sometimes with these addictions, but from that point on, you will no longer have anger when your addiction isn’t met. Many of us have instant anger when our addiction doesn’t get met, instant hurt, instant resentment; all of those instant feelings that come up where we fire up,and those feelings are all about our addictions getting met. When you deal with the addiction and feel through it emotionally, you’ll get to the point where you still may have an underlying causal emotion you need to release, but the actual addiction itself won’t drive the anger. There’s no addiction anymore so therefore no angry response. Remember the addiction is there to mask the causal emotion, that’s the purpose of it, so when I’m prepared to acknowledge the addiction and feel it, now it’s not masking the causal emotion so now the causal emotion has a chance to actually come up and be felt. [01:05:11]
Mary: And now that safety emotion is far more present for me all of the time.
So now what happens is if I talk to a group of people who are angry, instead of Mary being angry with me, she is actually crying because these people are angry and she feels terrible about it. She’s now in the causal emotion because the actual addictive behaviour to get out of the causal emotion is no longer present.
Participant: So the anger can subside as soon as you identify the addiction?
No, you have to feel your way through the addiction and the anger will subside. It’s very rare for you to notice it intellectually and the anger subsides. You’ll find that the anger will keep coming up, keep coming up, and keep coming up until you feel the reason why the addiction was created. “I’m not getting what I want here.” When you feel your way through that and release that and cry about that, then the addiction is gone. It’s like the addiction disappears. It’s like it just goes into nothing and from that moment on, now the causal emotion is there, ready to be felt at any time, any time it’s triggered and you won’t have an addictive response to it. [01:06:23]
And that’s the beauty of doing it too; you actually get out of anger, you have very little anger. After you deal with these addictions, you’ll find you’ll have very little anger in any of your processing. So if there’s still anger in your processing, you know there’s a lot of addictions in place still. When you get to a place where you’ve dealt with a lot of the addictions, the anger itself often is completely gone out of all of your processing. So now, even though Mary still has the emotion where she’s afraid for our lives at times with different interactions that are happening with us and the different feelings that people project at us and she’s still afraid of that, she’s now not angry with me or with the people doing it anymore.”
(The Human Soul: Processing Addictions)